Solo Hotwife play, tantric massages, and house party orgies - my 2025 wishlist

“With a social event, a ‘vibe-check’ drinks date, a sex party, a content creators photoshoot, and a potential orgy already booked in, 2025 is looking to be quite the year!”

That’s it - Christmas is over for another year and, at our house, it’s been a very merry one indeed, filled with family festivities at every turn; and of course all the usual winter sniffles and viruses we’ve been passing around like canapés throughout. But with everyone finally on the mend, and the kids back to school this week, we - like everybody else - have been turning our focus to getting back into shape for all the fun the next few weeks are promising to bring. On Sunday, we said goodbye to the last of the Quality Street (there was only a few of ‘that one no one likes’ rattling around in the bottom anyway), rid the fridge of delicious truffle cheese, emptied the cupboards of the remnants of the M&S Christmas Colin that had been there since Boxing Day, and buried our overused wine glasses at the back of the cupboard.

There’s nothing like the threat of parading around in lingerie imminently approaching to give you the swift kick you need to cut down the junk and start counting steps again.

2025 also signals mine and J’s first full year well and truly in the lifestyle - after an incredible introduction last summer, and we can’t wait to see the fun we’re going to get up to.

So with that in mind, I decided to start the year out as so many of us do: considering the year ahead, and any resolutions I’d like to make. In other words… giving some serious thought to what I hope 2025 has in store for this particular Hotwife! As you can imagine, my ‘to do’ list looks rather different than it did this time last January…

In January 2024, after 18 months of playing around with the idea, I was thinking this might be the year I finally explored a stag/vixen experience with my husband, J, and a third. We both found the idea of him sitting back and nursing a bourbon (the drink, not the biscuit) watching as I had sex with someone else incredibly erotic, and when we finally dove in and tried it over the summer, it was everything we’d hoped it would be - and more! So much so that, rather than feeling we wanted to simply tick that item off our list and move on, it thoroughly whet our appetite. We wanted more. And just like that, the pineapple community had two additional members. We closed the year out having also explored an MFM threesome, tested the waters with a bit of solo Hotwife dating, and indulged in a truly erotic full couple-swap. Not a bad first few months.

So this year we both have a bit of a 2025 wishlist…

1 - Solo dates all around

We’ve dabbled a little in solo Hotwife, and it’s hot, really hot. The second time I ever met Tom, back in October, it was for solo drinks in London, and we gave the bar staff at Seed Library in Shoreditch a bit of a show at our dimly-lit table. There were kisses, hands, some biting… let’s just say it was pretty clear where the night was heading. Our waiter looked a little hot under the collar by the time we eventually excused ourselves, and I ended up taking Tom back to mine and J’s hotel room upstairs. We did have a little time on our own before J came up to join us, and it was exciting and sexy. So now a totally solo Hotwife date is the next thing on the list for me.

Solo wasn’t something we ever thought would be on the cards for us, so it’s strange how our particular boundaries have evolved to the point that it’s something we’re both now keen to experience. Our own connection and trust as a married couple seems to deepen with every new experience, and once you have those things locked in, it doesn’t feel like there’s too much you can’t do.

“There’s something in the knowledge that my wife is out there getting her own fun,” J replies thoughtfully, when I asked him this week what it is about solo Hotwife that particularly appeals to him.

“In that moment, it’s not about her exhibitionism, or a performance for anyone else - though I know she loves that - but it’s just about her seeking pleasure for herself. It’s just because she wants to cum on that guy’s cock. What can I say? Knowing that my wife is a bit of a slut who enjoys fucking other guys... just does it for me!”

But isn’t that just the way in this lifestyle? Those goalposts never stay very still for long - and it goes both ways! After initially coming into the lifestyle for a specific fantasy, I quickly realised the idea of seeing J with someone else was an erotic idea that turned me on no end. We got to experience that in November, when we ended up sharing an incredible all-nighter with Luke and Eva, a couple we’d met at a Corruption event earlier in the summer. Now I’m ready for more, to see more, and to hear more as he graduates to solo meets and comes home to dish all the details to me in bed. This is going to be fun…

2 - Tantric Yoni massage

This wasn’t something that was particularly on my radar until I stumbled across a guy on Instagram recently who offers a mobile Tantric Yoni massage service. I saw a few videos that…well, let’s just say they caught my attention, and had me heading for Google to figure out exactly what a Tantric Yoni massage entails.

It turns out, Tantric Yoni massage - the female equivalent of a Lingam massage - is a full-body sexual tantra practice focusing on the labia, clitoris, G-spot, uterus, breasts, and anus. According to sources I read, Yoni massage is about giving you an opportunity to explore your body in a more sensual way, is often viewed as therapeutic, and can help to relieve tension (uh, yeah!). It can also help people who usually feel finished after one orgasm to achieve multiple orgasms.

Sign me up.

I love massages, always have - the tactility of hands running down your skin, and fingers kneading into the tight muscles of your body - so the idea of a massage that sees hands reaching to the places you always kind of wish they would? What’s not to like? Plus there’s something sexy - maybe even empowering - to me, as a woman, about the idea of a professional with their hands on me, performing a service, there for my pleasure, quite literally. I can’t explain it, at least not yet, but it definitely appeals. So I screwed up the nerve to message Tom earlier this week to try and set up a date for my first Tantric Yoni massage. I’ll keep you posted…

3 - Orgy house party

Yup, that definitely sounds like a porno.

“In cinemas nowwww, Orgy House Party Fouuuur….”

Ahem. But seriously, while the idea of an orgy would most likely have freaked me out a couple of years ago, there’s something completely intoxicating about it now that I can’t - and don’t want to - shake. Having attended sex parties, and been in the same room as lots of other people having sex, I’ve seen for myself what a turn-on it is. At our first ever event, in summer 2023, we ended up having sex on a bed on one side of the playroom, with just a few other people around, rather superstitiously and with most of our clothes still on. We were newbies. It felt like a really big step at the time. We went a step further at the most recent Killing Kittens Mansion House party back in October. When we visited the playroom, I peeled my dress and underwear off, and we ended up diving naked into the middle of all the beds, having sex with each other surrounded by other bodies fucking and licking one another, the intoxicating soundtrack of moans and murmurs only adding to the overall effect. There was a guy and a girl having sex right next to us, and the guy - who was taking his partner from behind - watched me, his eyes locked onto my face as I came hard on J’s cock. There were also others standing around the room, enjoying the view - an ideal cocktail-of-a-night for an exhibitionist like me. The entire experience was such a rush, and my orgasm that night was so intense.

Since then we’ve had a few invites to smaller parties, select groups of couples all getting together for an evening, and I can’t deny, I’m intrigued…

4 - Diving deeper…

More.

More couple swaps, more threesomes, more stag/vixen.

Just…more.

This time last year I had no idea how much fun all of the above were. We’ve had a taste, now we want more.

5 - MMF? FFM? MMM(M?)F?!

We’ve had two experiences where another guy has joined J and I, albeit it briefly during sessions of other things. Both were enormously pleasurable. One of the biggest orgasms I’ve ever had was with J between my legs, gripping my thighs with his strong hands, while Tom kissed me, and ran his tongue and teeth along my nipples.

(Mmm flashbacks. Must message Tom to see how he’s doing…)

Anyway! There are so many delicious combinations that would be fun to explore with this: MMF - but this time without J in the equation. Those would be some fun videos and photos to send back to him. MMMF? More hands make light work. And more orgasms. And sounds stupidly fun. FFM - although girls are not my personal thing, I do think they’re beautiful, and the idea of watching one with J up-close, and getting a bit involved, sounds like a lot of fun to me. I'd love to watch the pleasure written all over his face as two women joined forces on him. And maybe it would be my turn to pour a glass of bourbon and enjoy the view from an armchair in the corner at some point! Yeah, this is going to be a good year.

So as 2025 kicks into action, our diary for the next few weeks is already filling up. We have a social event in a nearby city, a ‘vibe-check’ drinks date, a couples-only sex party at the new Mirage private members club , a content creators photoshoot, and a potential orgy already booked in.

It's good to be back... see you next week

- The Secret Hotwife